Did you know that mom guilt is a real thing?
Yep… it is!
All moms out there will at one point in time will face this guilt in one way shape or form. From either saying the worng thing, snapping when you should be listening to your little one’s voice, to feeling guilty for working late or not cooking dinner an just ordering takeout. All of these items will bring on a sense of failure, self doubt and definite guilt.
It’s inevitable.
So often us as moms, when we bring in that little life and hold them in our arms from the first moment our life ends so to speak and all that matters is theirs. Their well being. What we forget that taking of ourselves allows us to be able to take care of them.
It took me many years to realize that in order for my kids to be well adjusted, happy little humans I needed to make sure that I was taking care of my well being, my self and practicing self-care and self-love.
If you find your self struggling with thoughts of guilt and needing to rest on this whole parenting life – – then I got you. Here are a few tips that can help you parent stress-free and get back to focusing on what’s most important and that’s your family.
1. Perfection is Overrated (and not realistic)
Motherhood is NOT perfect. We, mothers are HUMAN and perfection is an unrealistic idea that is planted in our heads through social media and movies. Which in reality, motherhood is messy and rocky. Some day’s it will be so rocky that you feel hopeless but just remember this too shall pass and that to keep standing strong.
2. Make Time For Yourself
I never understood the need to take of yourself in Motherhood until I became a mother myself. Self-care and loving yourself is NOT selfish. It’s a necessity to keep going and plus it demonstrates to your kids that taking care of themselves is important. This doesn’t mean spa days and pedicures, it means little things from reading a book, morning meditation, working out for an hour or just giving yourself some YOU time.
3. Celebrate The Small Things
Getting older in life (the big 40 is approaching in a few months) has taught me that sweating the big things and not enjoying the small accomplishments in each day. It is so easy to fall down the rabbit hole of negativity and focusing on what went wrong in the day or even in life that it consumes you and not only gets you feeling guilty or not good enough but then you start questioning everything in your life. It doesn’t have to be big things to celebrate, it can be the smallest things like baking cookies in the kitchen together or playing UNO (or any card games/games) with your kiddos, to just spending extra time outside playing.
4. It Takes A Village
If parenting was easy then it should of come with an handbook. There is not worse way of feeling bad as a mom then by having other mothers look at you and make you feel like your failing. Mom shaming is such a big thing that it happens everyday especially through social media. Listen, NO MOM HAS IT ALL TOGETHER – – and for all those mamas out there who claim to are just flat out LYING! Find a mama out there who you can relate to and be friends with. Allow yourself the ability of support and encouragement every mama out there needs.
5. Ask For Help
I know it may look like we are suppose to be SUPERMAMAS and be able to o All the things, but unless you have an invisible cape on then your not. Don’t be afraid to ask for help whether it is dealing with your kids, school, after school activities, or even for your own mental health. I used to believe that if you asked for help then you weren’t doing it right. That being a mother meant that you should be able to do 10 things with a smile, looking good and enjoy it all.
At the end of the day we need to take each day one day at a time.
